Introduction |
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Chapter 1 Getting Started |
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Chapter 2 How You Play the Game |
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1. Pretending It Isn't a Game |
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2. Playing the Game Safely and within Bounds |
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22 | (2) |
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24 | (2) |
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4. Doing the Work of Others |
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26 | (2) |
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5. Working without a Break |
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28 | (2) |
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30 | (2) |
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7. Pinching Company Pennies |
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32 | (2) |
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8. Waiting to Be Given What You Want |
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34 | (4) |
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9. Avoiding Office Politics |
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38 | (2) |
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40 | (6) |
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46 | (2) |
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13. Failing to Capitalize on Relationships |
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48 | (2) |
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14. Not Understanding the Needs of Your Constituents |
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50 | (3) |
Chapter 3 How You Act |
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15. Polling Before Making a Decision |
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56 | (2) |
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17. Not Needing to Be Liked |
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58 | (2) |
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18. Not Asking Questions for Fear of Sounding Stupid |
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60 | (2) |
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62 | (3) |
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20. Telling the Whole Truth and Nothing but the Truth (So Help You God) |
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65 | (3) |
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21. Sharing Too Much Personal Information |
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68 | (2) |
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22. Being Overly Concerned with Offending Others |
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70 | (2) |
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23. Denying the Importance of Money |
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72 | (2) |
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25. Acquiescing to Bullies |
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26. Decorating Your Office Like Your Living Room |
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78 | (2) |
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28. Offering a Limp Handshake |
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29. Being Financially Insecure |
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Chapter 4 How You Think |
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32. Taking Full Responsibility |
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33. Obediently Following Instructions |
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34. Viewing Men in Authority as Father Figures |
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96 | (2) |
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35. Limiting Your Possibilities |
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36. Ignoring the Quid Pro Quo |
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102 | (2) |
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104 | (2) |
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38. Putting Work Ahead of Your Personal Life |
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106 | (2) |
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39. Letting People Waste Your Time |
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108 | (2) |
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40. Prematurely Abandoning Your Career Goals |
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110 | (3) |
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41. Ignoring the Importance of Network Relationships |
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113 | (3) |
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116 | (2) |
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43. Making Up Negative Stories |
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118 | (2) |
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44. Striving for Perfection |
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Chapter 5 How You Brand and Market Yourself |
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45. Failing to Define Your Brand |
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124 | (2) |
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46. Minimizing Your Work or Position |
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126 | (2) |
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47. Using Only Your Nickname or First Name |
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128 | (2) |
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48. Waiting to Be Noticed |
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130 | (2) |
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49. Refusing High-Profile Assignments |
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132 | (2) |
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134 | (2) |
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51. Staying in Your Safety Zone |
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136 | (2) |
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52. Giving Away Your Ideas |
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138 | (2) |
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53. Working in Stereotypical Roles or Departments |
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140 | (2) |
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Chapter 6 How You Sound |
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56. Couching Statements as Questions |
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150 | (2) |
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152 | (2) |
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61. Using Minimizing Words |
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158 | (2) |
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160 | (2) |
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63. Not Answering the Question |
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162 | (2) |
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164 | (2) |
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65. The Inability to Speak the Language of Your Business |
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166 | (2) |
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67. Using Touchy-Feely Language |
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170 | (2) |
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176 | (2) |
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70. Speaking at a Higher-than-Natural Pitch |
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178 | (2) |
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72. Failing to Pause or Reflect Before Responding |
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Chapter 7 How You Look |
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73. Smiling Inappropriately |
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186 | (2) |
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74. Taking Up Too Little Space |
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188 | (2) |
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75. Using Gestures Inconsistent with Your Message |
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190 | (2) |
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76. Being Over- or Underanimated |
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192 | (2) |
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194 | (2) |
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78. Wearing Inappropriate Makeup |
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196 | (2) |
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79. Wearing the Wrong Hairstyle |
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198 | (2) |
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80. Dressing Inappropriately |
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200 | (2) |
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202 | (2) |
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83. Sitting in Meetings with Your Hands under the Table |
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206 | (2) |
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84. Wearing Your Reading Glasses around Your Neck |
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208 | (2) |
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85. Accessorizing Too Much |
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210 | (2) |
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86. Failing to Maintain Eye Contact |
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Chapter 8 How You Respond |
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87. Internalizing Messages |
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216 | (3) |
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88. Believing Others Know More than You |
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219 | (3) |
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89. Taking Notes, Getting Coffee, and Making Copies |
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222 | (2) |
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90. Tolerating Inappropriate Behavior |
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224 | (4) |
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91. Exhibiting Too Much Patience |
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228 | (2) |
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92. Accepting Dead-End Assignments |
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230 | (2) |
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93. Putting the Needs of Others Before Your Own |
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232 | (2) |
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234 | (3) |
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95. Allowing Yourself to Be the Scapegoat |
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237 | (2) |
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96. Accepting the Fait Accompli |
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239 | (3) |
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97. Permitting Others' Mistakes to Inconvenience You |
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242 | (2) |
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98. Being the Last to Speak |
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244 | (2) |
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99. Playing the Gender Card |
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246 | (3) |
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100. Tolerating Sexual Harassment |
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249 | (2) |
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251 | (4) |
Appendix Personal Development Planning and Resources |
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