The Everything Parent's Guide to the Strong-willed Child
by Pickhardt, Carl E.Format: Paperback
Pub. Date: 2005-09-01
Publisher(s): Adams Media Corp
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Summary
All children need guidance, yet some are definitely more resistant to parental direction and advice than others. Parenting a child whose personality may be described as "difficult" or "controlling" can leave you conflicted and frustrated. How do you nurture your child, get him to listen, and know who's in charge?
Author Biography
Carl E. Pickhardt, Ph.D., is a published author and psychologist in a private counseling practice
Table of Contents
| Introduction | p. xiii |
| Strong Will Means Willfulness | p. 1 |
| What Is Willfulness? | p. 1 |
| The Will in Willfulness | p. 2 |
| When Will Is Lost | p. 2 |
| The Conditional Shift | p. 4 |
| One-Step Thinking | p. 5 |
| How Children Learn Willfulness | p. 8 |
| Hallmarks of a Strong-Willed Child | p. 11 |
| Where There's a Will, There's a Want | p. 11 |
| Where There's a Will, There's a Won't | p. 12 |
| Where There's a Will, There's a Why | p. 15 |
| Where There's a Will, There's a Win | p. 17 |
| Where There's a Will, There's a When | p. 18 |
| Where There's a Will, There's a Whose | p. 20 |
| In Praise of the Strong-Willed Child | p. 23 |
| Negative Connotations | p. 23 |
| The Positive Side of Willfulness | p. 24 |
| Contrasts with a Weak-Willed Child | p. 28 |
| Being Self-Defined | p. 29 |
| Making Declarations | p. 32 |
| Determination | p. 34 |
| Problems with Being a Strong-Willed Child | p. 37 |
| Powerful to a Fault | p. 37 |
| Controlling to a Fault | p. 40 |
| Independent to a Fault | p. 43 |
| Exceptional to a Fault | p. 45 |
| Self-Focused to a Fault | p. 48 |
| Intolerant to a Fault | p. 52 |
| Working for Willingness | p. 55 |
| The Illusion of Parental Control | p. 55 |
| Willingness Is Cooperation | p. 59 |
| Motivating Cooperation | p. 63 |
| Cooperation and Making Choices | p. 64 |
| Subverting Cooperation | p. 67 |
| The Problem with Being a Strong-Willed Parent | p. 71 |
| Characteristics of a Strong-Willed Parent | p. 71 |
| You Teach What You Are | p. 74 |
| The Tyranny of Now | p. 76 |
| Power Struggles | p. 79 |
| Excessive Needs for Control | p. 81 |
| When a Willful Child Runs the Family | p. 85 |
| Parents Lose Their Sense of Priority | p. 85 |
| Parents Can See Nothing but Negative | p. 87 |
| Parents Are Scattered and Distracted | p. 89 |
| Parents Focus on What They Can't Control | p. 91 |
| Parents Are on the Reactive | p. 93 |
| Building Blocks for Getting Back in Charge | p. 97 |
| Getting Communication in Working Order | p. 97 |
| Clarifying Responsibilities | p. 101 |
| Assessing Consent | p. 103 |
| Asserting Authority | p. 104 |
| Keeping a Positive Perspective | p. 107 |
| Roadblocks to Getting Back in Charge | p. 111 |
| The Intractable Child | p. 111 |
| Retraining the Intractable Child | p. 113 |
| The Violent Child | p. 116 |
| Encouraging Nonviolent Behavior | p. 117 |
| Confronting Acts of Self-Violence | p. 122 |
| Handling Discipline | p. 123 |
| The Goal of Discipline | p. 123 |
| Respecting Choice | p. 124 |
| Consistency Matters Most | p. 128 |
| Principles of Noninflammatory Discipline | p. 130 |
| Guidance | p. 131 |
| Supervision | p. 134 |
| Structure | p. 137 |
| Exchange Points | p. 141 |
| Handling Conflict | p. 143 |
| Conflict in Action | p. 143 |
| The Nature of Conflict | p. 144 |
| Responsibility in Conflict | p. 148 |
| Conflict Resolution | p. 150 |
| Conflict Avoidance | p. 154 |
| Sibling Conflicts | p. 157 |
| Maintaining Emotional Sobriety | p. 163 |
| Emotions Running High | p. 163 |
| Emotions: Good Servants, Bad Masters | p. 164 |
| Taking Emotional Responsibility | p. 167 |
| The Function of Anger | p. 170 |
| Emotional Escalation | p. 172 |
| Expectations and Emotion | p. 174 |
| Emotional Overreactions | p. 177 |
| ADD and ADHD Children and Willfulness | p. 181 |
| The Wandering Child and the Wild Child | p. 181 |
| Separating the Condition from the Choice | p. 183 |
| The Cultural Contribution | p. 184 |
| Problem Solving | p. 187 |
| Practicing Self-Management Skills | p. 189 |
| Using Medication | p. 191 |
| Introducing Education | p. 193 |
| Issues with School | p. 193 |
| Setting Academic Expectations | p. 194 |
| Collaborating with the School | p. 198 |
| Secondary School Versus Primary School | p. 199 |
| Public, Private, or Homeschooling | p. 203 |
| Additional Education | p. 206 |
| How Adolescence Increases Willfulness | p. 209 |
| What Changes? | p. 209 |
| How Long Adolescence Lasts | p. 210 |
| The Journey of Adolescence | p. 210 |
| Parenting Challenges in Adolescence | p. 212 |
| Resistance to Rules | p. 215 |
| The Willful Push | p. 217 |
| Freedom and Willfulness | p. 221 |
| Freedom at All Costs | p. 221 |
| Contracting for Freedom | p. 222 |
| How Freedom Is Earned | p. 223 |
| The Matter with Money | p. 224 |
| The Power of Peers | p. 228 |
| Willfulness in Early Adolescence | p. 233 |
| Signs of Early Adolescence | p. 233 |
| Letting the "Bad" Child Out | p. 235 |
| Adjusting to Early Adolescence | p. 237 |
| The Negative Attitude | p. 240 |
| Rebellion | p. 242 |
| Early Experimentation | p. 247 |
| Anticipating Later Adolescence | p. 251 |
| Antagonism and Ambivalence | p. 251 |
| The Willful Midadolescent Push (Ages 13-15) | p. 254 |
| The Willful Late-Adolescent Push (Ages 15-18) | p. 257 |
| The Willful Trial Independence Push (Ages 18-23) | p. 261 |
| The Willful Only Child | p. 265 |
| Family Dynamics | p. 265 |
| The Danger of Overparenting | p. 267 |
| The Demanding and Controlling Only Child | p. 269 |
| The Power of Being Precocious | p. 273 |
| The Problem with Adolescence | p. 275 |
| Substance Use Increases Willfulness | p. 279 |
| Substance Use Makes Willfulness Worse | p. 279 |
| How Parents Can Help | p. 281 |
| Why Children Use Substances | p. 283 |
| Holding the Child Accountable | p. 285 |
| Assessing Level of Use | p. 286 |
| Willpower to the Rescue | p. 292 |
| Helpful Web Sites | p. 296 |
| Helpful Books | p. 298 |
| Helpful Support Groups | p. 299 |
| Index | p. 300 |
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